In the Interim - The meeting with the Principal isn't until next week! What can I do now?

IN THE INTERIM

Okay, so now you’ve made your appointment to speak directly to the school Principal – the ‘head honcho’ in charge.  Remember, this meeting is far too important to speak to anyone else.

In the meantime, your child is still in shambles nervously attending school, or begging you to let them remain at home.  You might ask: “How do you help your child between your scheduled meeting, and the date/time of your meeting?”

HERE’S HOW

First, you need to let your child know with certainty, that you WILL intervene. Your goal is to become their ‘mouth piece’ and you will see that the bullying behaviors against him/her will end, and soon.

Your child should feel at ease that things will soon change, and for the better. You will see the burden lifted from your child’s shoulders as you console and assure them that YOU are not only listening, but YOU affirm immediate action toward peace for them.

You should also let your child realize whatever they may feel as the lowest most embarrassing thing that ever happen(s/ed) to them, they can overcome it. Most people endure embarrassment from time-to-time, wishing some things never happened, but at times things just happen. 

·         Tell your child NEVER let the Bully win.

·         Tell your child to be their own leader. 

·         Tell your child to Never let a bully manipulate them.

·         Tell your child NEVER allow a Bully to control their thoughts and/or feelings.

With practice and effective role-modeling, your child can learn to look past inappropriate, mean taunts and messages meant to hurt their feelings and demean them. 

PARENTS

Begin invoking Affirmation messages and Self-Fulfilling Prophecy sayings with your child. Your child needs to hear you say that the negative, unwarranted actions being placed on him/her is definitely not normal, and is not their fault. Affirmation builds self-esteem and heightens self-identity.  

AFFIRMATIONS

Affirmations makes children feel good about themselves, and affirmations empowers children past anything a bully can ever incite upon them. 

Trust me: Affirmations and Self-fulfilling Prophecy Techniques CAN change the focus of what children achieve, what they want to achieve, and what they hope achieve. Affirmations help build a child’s inner strength, and faith in themselves over time.

Regardless of what some researchers may say, Affirmations do not give children false empowerment. You must do whatever you can to SAVE YOUR CHILD. Besides, isn’t it true? Isn’t your child wonderful? So, ask them to:

REPEAT AFTER ME                                                   

·         I am worthy

·         I am beautiful                                    

·         I am self-confident

·         I am empowered

·         I have self-pride

·         I am smart  

·         I have great social skills 

·         I am talented

NOTE

Whatever you do - Let your child realize that YOU respect them, and that they are worth your intervention.

Question: “Okay, now I’ve met with the Principal, Dr. Cherrye, and you assured me that the Principal would be all ears, but guess what? This Principal is stubborn, and chooses not to listen to me.  What next?”

My answer: Don’t worry. I’ll tell you exactly what to do, so stay tuned for my next blog.

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Help Your Children Affirm Their Greatness!

Dear Parents,

I want to ensure your children feel great about self-identity, have great self-esteem and are armored with 'feel good' thoughts and affirmations. School is in full session now, so you may see changes in your child's affect (their mood change).

School is in Full Session

School has been in session now for about 2.5-3 months, so the 'honeymoon' is over. Children are now more comfortable in their daily routines, and feel comfortable with not only their paths, but their friendships, and actions. While this is a great doing, we must also realize that some children may not be focused solely on academics, but their behaviors may have taken a different turn. With this in mind, we must make certain that we're having daily talks with our children. We must ensure they have healthy outlooks on life, and they feel comfortable in their own 'skin'. But how can we do this?

Affirmation Techniques

Definition of Affirmation

Affirmations are voiced, or written by a person confirming and declaring who they are, what they are, and what they want to do and/or become in life. Affirmations are tools of creative faith and strong certainty, each believed to be true by the individual.

Positive Affirmations will lift up a person's self-esteem, so make certain the affirmations you bestow on children are very positive and motivating, please.

Some Theorists Believe

Now let's be clear. Some researchers maintain that telling children they are this or that in positive ways, only sets them up for false truths. If you are one who believes this theory, it's perfectly okay to tell children how great they are along with what you have determined is a long-term growth/need/or improvement, BUT - I believe this can be done in a positive, healthy way.
For example: If your child has an issue with keeping his/her room tidy, you certainly don't want to tell them a false tale that you like how that they keep their rooms clean. Rather, you could say, "I love how organized you are with keeping your Math folder organized, how can we work toward keeping your room just as tidy? Together, let's work on a plan-of-action." You can involve your child in the planning stages of how to keep his/her room tidier.

Affirmation Prompts (few examples)

I affirm love for myself. Here's how:
I affirm love and joy in my life
I affirm that I am a true friend
I affirm responsibility
I affirm making right choices in my life
I affirm peace in my life
I affirm empowerment
I affirm positive leadership
I affirm social problem-solving skills

Each of these affirmation prompts above can be expanded. Please assist children with writing meaningful sentences that will really help them evolve, and impact their lives as they advance into greatness.

For example:

I Affirm Social Problem-Solving Skills

I affirm taking charge of my own problems in life. I always solve problems by first taking these steps:

I affirm taking on academics that I've never learned before as a challenge to learn more. Today I will learn:

Tomorrow, I affirm and plan to:

Another example:

I Affirm Responsibility


I affirm making sure I know what my homework assignment is before leaving school because:

I affirm that I will complete my homework in a timely manner because:

I affirm that I will turn my homework assignment(s) in to my teacher(s) each morning because my homework is:

Another example:

I Affirm Belief in Myself

I affirm and believe that I am:

I affirm and believe that I can:

I affirm and believe that I am intelligent because:

I affirm recognition of my talents, abilities and skills. So far, I've:


Affirmations can be used as a tool to encourage increased empowerment. Please guide and empower children. Give them the self-confidence needed to persevere. Affirmations can help change the focus of what children achieve, what they want to achieve, and what they hope to achieve.


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