Okay,
so now you’ve made your appointment to speak directly to the school Principal –
the ‘head honcho’ in charge. Remember, this meeting is far too
important to speak to anyone else.
In
the meantime, your child is still in shambles nervously attending school, or
begging you to let them remain at home. You might ask: “How do you
help your child between your scheduled meeting, and the date/time of your
meeting?”
HERE’S HOW
First,
you need to let your child know with certainty, that you WILL intervene.
Your goal is to become their ‘mouth piece’ and you will see that the bullying
behaviors against him/her will end, and soon.
Your
child should feel at ease that things will soon change, and for the better. You
will see the burden lifted from your child’s shoulders as you console and
assure them that YOU are not only listening, but YOU affirm immediate action toward
peace for them.
You should also
let your child realize whatever they may feel as the lowest most embarrassing
thing that ever happen(s/ed) to them, they can overcome it. Most people endure
embarrassment from time-to-time, wishing some things never happened, but at
times things just happen.
·
Tell your child NEVER let the Bully win.
·
Tell your child to be their own leader.
·
Tell your child to Never let a bully manipulate them.
·
Tell your child NEVER allow a Bully to control their thoughts
and/or feelings.
With
practice and effective role-modeling, your child can learn to look past
inappropriate, mean taunts and messages meant to hurt their feelings and demean
them.
PARENTS
Begin
invoking Affirmation messages and Self-Fulfilling Prophecy
sayings with your child. Your child needs to hear you say that the negative,
unwarranted actions being placed on him/her is definitely not normal, and is
not their fault. Affirmation builds self-esteem and heightens
self-identity.
AFFIRMATIONS
Affirmations makes children feel good about themselves, and
affirmations empowers children past anything a bully can ever incite upon them.
Trust me: Affirmations and
Self-fulfilling Prophecy Techniques CAN change the focus of what children
achieve, what they want to achieve, and what they hope achieve. Affirmations
help build a child’s inner strength, and faith in themselves over time.
Regardless of what some
researchers may say, Affirmations do not give children false empowerment. You
must do whatever you can to SAVE YOUR CHILD. Besides, isn’t it true? Isn’t
your child wonderful? So, ask them to:
REPEAT AFTER ME
·
I am worthy
·
I am beautiful
·
I am self-confident
·
I am empowered
·
I have self-pride
·
I am smart
·
I have great social skills
·
I am talented
NOTE
Whatever
you do - Let your child realize that YOU respect them, and that they are worth
your intervention.
Question: “Okay, now I’ve met with the Principal, Dr. Cherrye, and you
assured me that the Principal would be all ears, but guess what? This Principal
is stubborn, and chooses not to listen to me. What next?”
My answer: Don’t worry. I’ll tell you exactly what to do, so stay tuned for
my next blog.
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