I promised to answer your question:
“Okay, now I’ve met
with the Principal, Dr. Cherrye, and you assured me the Principal would be all ears,
but guess what? This Principal is stubborn, and chooses not to listen to me.
What next?”
DO NOT ACCEPT DEFEAT
You cannot afford to take such a defeat. Remember, your child
is depending on you to help with the Bully. The Bully will not let-up, and your
child is miserable. Your child is feeling sad, let-down, defeated, scared, and no
longer wants to attend school. Even your child’s friend is afraid of the bully, and becoming a Bystander.
HERE’S WHAT YOU NEED
TO DO
If your Principal isn’t listening, or is taking his/her dear
time with this very important issue, it is time for you to move on to the next
chain-of -command. It’s time for you to reach out to the Principal’s boss. Is this
the Area Superintendent, or the Superintendent?
After you’ve reached as high as you can go, and if the Superintendent
isn’t listening, it’s time for you to contact the Board of Education of your district.
Be sure that you have all your documentation each step of the way.
LEGAL ACTION
Sometimes the parent of the bully needs to feel this issue hitting
their pocket-books. Inform the Principal, and his boss that you have had enough
and plan to file charges against the student. Yes, you plan to have the student
fined. This may pose a legal record of some sort for the Bully, but you did try to
get help first. Hopefully the parents of the Bully won’t be as concerned about
the fine as much as they are alarmed at their child receiving a record, and/or being
a school Bully.
MEDIA
It’s time to take this issue to the media. You tried to be fair
and you followed the chain-of-command. School officials will not want the media
on their campus. The district will not want this sort of negative attention.
NOTE
As I stated earlier, these are last resort measures, but
remember, this blog post is written because the Principal isn’t listening. You
cannot just shrug your shoulders in defeat. Your child’s safety and life may
depend on these 'last-ditch' efforts.
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From Linda Hales:
ReplyDeleteYou are providing an incredibly valuable service Cherrye. Far too many children suffer from bullying at some stage of their school life and even into their adult lives if they do not have the issue nipped in the bud from the outset. A child whose caregivers do not provide the support needed, grows up in fear and mistrust of the system and often withdraws, failing to become the strong, self assured adult he was born to be. Too many young people experience the deepest sense of hopelessness and succumb to taking their own lives while others simply fail to actualize into the beautiful participant in society they could have become. Many parents will appreciate your support and guidance. I know I would.
As I reflect on your words, Linda, I can't help think of the Florida school shootings. When children feel hopeless, there is no telling what mental state they might acquire. The anger spins out of control. Parents must be careful how to interact with children in their home environments and school settings, too.
DeleteHi Cherrye, this is such an important endeavor and who better to tackle it than you? With all the emphasis on bullying today--which is certainly needed, we tend to forget that teachers, principles and others guiding our children's lives, can and do scar many for life. I had as many teachers bully me as I did classmates. And in retrospect, while I got over the bullying by peers, comments made by cruel and/or unthinking/unqualified teachers influenced my life in negative ways in which I may never fully recover.
ReplyDeleteThis is a perfect job for you, being an educator yourself. Keep me posted on your success.
Thank you for stopping by, Micki. It really disturbs me to see teachers hurting children. They are in such great places to encourage, but a few choose to use their leadership powers in such an unkind way.
DeleteThank you for being passionate about this subject. I have been the mom searching for answers because nothing was being done for my child. My situation got better but there are some people that have not been as fortunate or still trying to get answers. Keep it up Auntie! You’re going to save someone’s life!
ReplyDeleteCandice,
DeletePlease let me know how I can best assist you with my GrAuntie Babies. Shame on me for not thinking to check in with you and Alessia determining how our own 'Calhoun' children are fairing with bullying issues at school. Keep me posted and let me know how I can help anyone else that you know whose dealing with issues of this sort. Mercy!
Thank you for reading my blog, clipping path Chief. It has been my pleasure to attempt helping children and their families with this awful pandemic called bullying.
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